Kindness Begins with a thought…
You can act kindly only when you think positively. It’s an expression of your thought! You cannot fake it. It comes from the heart! The idea becomes your words. If you cannot speak kind words, better to be silent. Bhagavad Gita Ch 17, verse 15 highlights on austerity of speech.
You can be kind to someone if you already have a preconceived positive notion about that individual or something but your kindness vanishes whenever you’ve got a negative thought about the same person or thing.
A mother’s love is the ultimate kindness. She is the symbolic epitome of kindness so we all can learn what kindness is. Kindness is love expressed without expecting anything in return.
If we are able to emulate that very same love to everyone around we would be in an excellent world! Kindness is expressed in precisely the same way whether it is directed towards a baby, toddler, adult or a senior but we often choose to be different with various people based on our own prejudices.
Quite often, it can be observed that you can be kind to one’s child but not to a neighbor’s kid. An individual may be kind to their loved ones, when one needs something from them but not when the family wants something from that one!
Kindness is helping when needed with everything you can, when you can, even if it’s just a smile, hug or listening. Others might be able to share their kindness in other ways, that is okay because it’s neither a competition nor a standard. Kindness does not mean that you agree with other people all of the time. It means you agree to disagree, you consent to live & let live. People often confuse being nice with kindness.
It’s a like reputation and character. Reputation is the others’ perception of you while character is who you are. Being nice is based on how people see you and being sort is how you see yourself. Only when you’re contented and happy you can express kindness. If you feel deficient in your lifetime, that’ll be voiced too. .
Being type could be construed as weakness and taken advantage of but a person of kindness forgives that too. Kindness is being gracious even in times of meanness.
More often the lack is felt than the presence.
Why is kindness needed?
Scott Adams said,’Remember there is no such thing as a small act of kindness. Every act creates a ripple with no logical conclusion’.
There are lots of people who are less fortunate with health, both physical and mental and family. First, we will need to count our blessings. Helen Keller quotes,’I cried because I had no shoes until I saw a guy with no legs’, only then you feel the empathy, compassion towards other people and thankful for what you have!
What are some ways we can express kindness? There are numerous ways… Choose to include an additional coin whilst parking than required, someone can get the benefit. Reduce the change for charity following shopping, fill in water in a large pot or lemonade in another pot outside the home for the unknown walkers around the road to quench their thirst, water the plants, feed the birds & animals, feed the hunger when you’re out and when they approach you by obtaining a meal from a restaurant. Nothing that you do for others is insignificant.
Go ahead and do something good for others, what you can, once you can, with what you have, to bring a smile in that face. Do this with seniors, people in houses, terminally ill individuals, homeless and lonely folks. You’ll make a huge difference in their life. They often want us to be silent and listen to them. Did you notice these two words have the same letters?
How can we be kind?
Kindness begins in your home, be kind to your relatives. You’re where you are because of them. You parents, your siblings, relations, co-workers, subordinates and supervisors have all contributed in one way or another.
One thing I learned from my mother is,’Learn to appear into the positive aspects of each person in your life and remember them forever. If you encounter negative memories about others forget them immediately, only then kindness, compassion & benevolence will pour out’. She said,’Try not to judge anyone by their behaviour, people are inherently kind and compassionate but the challenges that they have faced in their life, and on a specific day, makes them to be otherwise. You, by being kind, can make a big impact in their lives’.